DAVE GROHL REVEALS HOW KURT COBAIN’S DEATH CHANGED HIS OUTLOOK ON LIFE

Published On January 28, 2013 | By Brett Buchanan | Featured, Foo Fighters, Grunge Report, Nirvana

Dave Grohl discussed his late Nirvana bandmate Kurt Cobain in a new interview with the BBC, “To be honest, When Kurt died I realized that every day that you have should be celebrated in some way. We’re so lucky to have what we have, no matter whether it’s your worst day or the greatest day of your life, just to be alive and experience something like this [looks around Utah, where the interview is taking place]. So I really try to take advantage of it, I mean because I can e-mail Tom Petty and say ‘hey lets jam,’ or because I can tell everyone hey I’m not doing press today because I’m going to take my daughter inner tubing over there, why not.”

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  • MJ

    He sounds like he’s obviously not experienced chronic depression. Life is not a great thing to be thankful for when you’re constantly unhappy.

    But Dave’s always been the happy one so, of course he’s Mr. Brightside.

  • RickDeckard

    ^ It’s not like he’s telling you how to live your life. Is your point that everyone’s different?
    Good for him that he’s that strong of a person. It’s like you’re ragging on him because he’s not depressed like you.

  • Abe Froman

    MJ’s right, Cobain’s suicide should have inspired Grohl to put a gun in his own mouth. How dare he be optimistic & enjoy life.

    Fuckin’ jerk.

  • Sandra Manning

    Kurt isnt Dave, they both have different backgrounds/upbringings and outlooks in life. if kurt had stopped using drugs and start focusing on the bright side of life maybe things would have changed for him. i wonder what would happen to nirvana/kurt’s career if kurt is still alive today.

  • Yaddah

    Kurt Cobain would’ve divorced Courtney Love, for sure.

  • Is he one?

    It’s probably easier to be thankful for life when you’re Dave Grohl than when you’re, let’s say, me. And I consider myself a fairly stable dude.

  • Yourmom

    He’s saying even if you are in depression, you should be thankful for what you have, cuz what’s your chance to even being alive. Stipid people don’t realize it, but this chance is almost 0.

  • Big M

    I’m with MJ. I think it’s great that Grohl soldiered on. But Cobain was imbalanced chemically and suffered from chronic depression. Something Dave clearly does not experience. Life isn’t a gift if you are chroinically depressed and everyone’s life isnt as great as Dave Grohl’s. I mean if I were Dave I’d be pretty psyched too but it doesn’t really sound like Dave fully understands what it is like to suffer like Kurt did.Still there’s nothing wrong with what Dave is saying and it’s great that Dave is so high on life.

  • MJ

    Look, I never said that Dave’s comments were wrong. I was just making a point that this is the way everyone who is in a better place talks about depression, drug addiction, basicallly any mental illness. It would have been cool if Dave had said “yeah, I understand, life is hard.” Hearing people talk about life being great if you just take a look around just makes me feel a million miles away.

    I do get what he’s saying. That’s what Kurt’s suicide caused him to realize. Its his cathartic realization. Cool.

  • paulonious

    he’s not commenting on drug addiction or depression. he’s merely saying that he realized it could all end at any second, so enjoy it now. that’s all.

  • versus

    I agree w/ paulonious; don’t make this more than what it is. It’s just a quote about how a death changed Grohl’s life.

  • GwynnKatie

    MJ, I understood what you meant. Don’t let the bastards grind you down. No need to explain yourself to a select few people here who just love to pounce and act like assholes. Dave meant that Kurt’s death opened his eyes to an appreciation of life and you clearly got that message. But I highly doubt he would have given the same response in an interview say — (hypothetically) if his last five records had bombed, no one cared about the Foo Fighters, he was constantly banging smack to deal with his depression and emotional problems, and had lived an unstable childhood similar to Kurt’s instead of in a loving and supportive single-parent home. It’s easy to crow the positive when everything is going your way and you’re sitting on a pile of cash with no money worries and you aren’t an addict scared shitless of when it will be the next time you’re gonna get drug sick. Or how about the thousands of young parents in this country who have small children and have been struggling to find work for two years or more, barely able to fee their families. I bet most of them would be thankful to scrub fucking toilets at this point…

    I love Dave. But this interview was NOT one of his shining moments.
    He came across as rather self-absorbed.
    Peace

    • Yaddah

      Get an effin life!

  • GwynnKatie

    *feed* sorry

  • Vann

    holy shit, all he said was his friends death gave him a new outlook and appreciation for life. how in the hell is that self absorbed at all?

  • GwynnKatie

    When Kurt died <~~~ about someone else.
    The rest of it is around the word *I*. Himself.
    So I really try to take advantage of it, I mean because I can e-mail Tom Petty and say ‘hey lets jam,’ or because I can tell everyone hey I’m not doing press today because I’m going to take my daughter inner tubing over there, why not.

    *I* really try, *I* mean because, *I* can, hey *let's*, *I* can tell, hey *I'm* not doing press today, *I'm* going to, take *my* daughter.

    Figure it out. Sorry if it seems offensive to you or anyone.
    He is coming across as self-absorbed.
    Peace

  • Kitty

    @GwynnKatie
    Jeez Loueez! Overreacting much? *HE* was asked how Kurt’s death affected *HIS* so *HE* answered it. The question was about *HIM* not Kurt or you. Maybe *you* need to get over *yourself* and stop thinking people are supposed to get answers to *your* liking so that *you* don’t find them self-absorbed. THAT my friend, is self-absorbed. Sorry if that offends you.

    • Yaddah

      Hit the nail right on the head, with that one.

  • GwynnKatie

    Kitty said: @GwynnKatie Jeez Loueez! Overreacting much?
    Hahaha! That’s really funny… considering your reaction.
    Nothing anyone says here offends in the least. It’s only opinions.
    I like Dave. But he screwed up here. MJ had a better take. It would have been nice if he had said “yeah, I understand, life is hard.”
    They asked him about Kurt. He might have tried tenderness.
    He talked about himself instead. It was self-absorbed.
    I’m sticking by my opinion. Don’t read it if you don’t like it.
    Peace

  • Grungeluv

    SO MUCH FUCKING SPAM COMMENTS…
    ARE YOU GUYS GONNA STOP?
    YOU DON’T HAVE TO ANSWER THAT-ASSHOLES.

    BASICALLY, DAVE IS SAYING HOW LIFE IS PRECIOUS AND EVERY MOMENT IS IMPORTANT.

    P.S: JUSTICE FOR KURT.

  • Raj

    No one in a band expects someone to die, yet it’s happened a lot in the music industry. When it happens, it definitely serves as a wake up call.

    Dave and Kurt differed in personalities, Dave is an extrovert and outgoing guy while Kurt was introverted. Kurt was the frontman so he had way more pressure fronting Nirvana. Dave probably didn’t experience the same pressure until he became a frontman with the Foos and was accused of being a tyrant/control freak with so many band member changes. My guess is Kurt kept a lot of things bottled up inside and it became too much. Plus as far as I have read Kurt was the only guy in the band doing drugs while battling depression.

  • Iso

    “MJ’s right, Cobain’s suicide should have inspired Grohl to put a gun in his own mouth. How dare he be optimistic & enjoy life.

    Fuckin’ jerk.”

    That’s fuckin priceless Abe Froman! Yes you too GwynnMcGee are overreacting here- don’t be so fuckin dramatic about starving children and dopesick mom’s and jobless thousands and what the fuck are you talking about? Christ where the fuck did THAT tirade come from? Sounds like you’re battling some depressed demons sister…

  • Ripley

    @Kitty, you’re the boss for making that point. Saved me from doing it (and it would have been done subordinately).

    @Big M, there’s actually no evidence (aka scientific proof whatsoever) that chemical imbalances exist. Look it up.
    Of course some people are more introverted/depression prone than others, you can’t help but notice that if you have eyes, not saying that isn’t true. The term “chemical imbalance” is a materialistic term relating to a phenomenon which is probably mostly not physical, with the purpose of selling drugs.

  • ben dover

    mj- great point , life ain’t for everybody. if you wanna check into the lost and found then go ahead.

  • Curmudgeon

    As much as I wish Kurt was still alive, I feel like he would have eventually faded away if he was still around. Towards the end of his life he said he was tapped out and had no more creative material and the band was on the verge of breaking up. I feel he would have turned out kind of like Bob Dylan, he was the voice of a generation and now not relevant. And all Dave is saying is when you lose someone close you look at life differently.

  • Monster Robert

    Dave seems like positive guy.

  • Unglued

    Do you really think Kurt is voice of generation???
    I just suprised when nevermind reissue only sold 26000 coppies at first week sale.
    In my case Nirvana is the only band that hit the world. Because Im not the boy who lived in 1960s or 1970s. Most people around my place just admire old band. Because they lived long day and making a good music. But actually I never seen the phenomenon before nirvana came out. Thats why I think Nirvana is great. But they didnt sell much record like beatles. 90S children is dead. Haha. Its a joking.

  • Unglued

    Or there are more soup under the old band. I do think.

  • Abe Froman

    This thread is very funny to me. Most people on here seem pretty insulted that Grohl didn’t turn this into an opportunity to preach about mental illness or drug addiction instead of answering the question directly & concisely (What the fuck do you guys know about Grohl’s relationship with the interviewer? Maybe he’s a dick & Grohl didn’t want to get into personal issues with him, but that wouldn’t be good enough for some of you, because he has to meet YOUR expectations – talk about self centered)

    MJ, you would have been happy if Dave Grohl said “I know, life’s hard.”? Shut the fuck up, you would have found something else to complain about. Here’s an idea, go get help instead of moping around online message boards bitching about what Dave Grohl didn’t say.

    Here’s another one for you Cobain worshippers, he was a selfish prick who decided to take the easy way out instead of getting help & trying to be there for his daughter. Did he ever seek professional help? Long term? As far as I know it was a few quick stints in rehab before bailing on it.

    The guy wrote some great music, but beyond that he was a selfish child who never grew up. He doesn’t deserve your adulation.

    He wanted to be famous, and his last act on this earth guaranteed it. He knew exactly what he was doing when he joined the ’27 Club’. Selfish prick. (don’t give me the broken home bullshit either, we all know plenty of good people who have come from single parent households)

    & this is all coming from a Nirvana fan. I saw them in ’93 (that’s right, suck it) and absolutely loved their music, but 2 decades have passed since then, I’m over it.

    Mental illness is real, go get help, please. Or you can just go the route of your ‘hero’ Kurt, just leave the rest of us out of it.

    • Yaddah

      I’m with that…man!

  • GwynnKatie

    Ah Raj, always the voice of reason. Glad you showed up yesterday. Not the first place I have heard Grohl described as being a tyrant/control freak. Thanks.

    “don’t be so fuckin dramatic about starving children and dopesick mom’s…”

    When I was referring to dopesick — I was referring to Kurt (in comparison to Dave), and perhaps why he found it hard to appreciate his life. You obviously only scanned what I read. Try reading it all first, it might make you look less ignorant in your response. Yeah – I derailed at the end about the jobless in this country. I quickly tire of celebrities yakking about themselves instead of giving back. It’s how I think and feel. I really don’t care if any of you feel the same way.

    Hey Abe, the rant was a real eye-opener. Mental illness is real? Here’s a clue for you. Addiction is a mental illness. The first time a heroin addict bangs smack it’s a personal choice. The fifth time they do it — it is the addiction running the person. How do I know this? I’ve worked an adult chemical dependency unit at a psychiatric hospital. You made yourself look real, real stupid with your shallow, uninformed comment. I pray for you that you NEVER have to watch someone you love or care for battle with true addiction. It is a torture I would not wish on my worst enemy.

    Verbally jacking your cock on an internet message board is real, go get help, please. Or better yet — just leave the rest of us out of it. It’s not a pretty sight.

    Peace
    AIC Forever
    Justice For Kurt
    Dave Pull Your Swelled Head Out Of Your Ass

  • Iso

    “When I was referring to dopesick — I was referring to Kurt and perhaps why he found it hard to appreciate his life. You obviously only scanned what I read. Try reading it all first, it might make you look less ignorant in your response. Yeah – I derailed at the end about the jobless in this country. I quickly tire of celebrities yakking about themselves instead of giving back.”

    Tsk. Latching onto “dopesick” the word ain’t the point, the point is you went full-off the rails on a tirade that wasn’t warranted, needed, or pertinent. Work it back good. I read it. You pounced on Grohl knowing exactly DICK about him. Your yammering reflects ZERO awareness about who he is, what he actually may or may not be afflicted with, affected by from upbringing, demons he may battle, give-back to community/ society, you know dick. The swelled head belongs to Ms. “I Work At A Psych Hospital & Thus Know All”. Bullshit. What would you be doing in a place like this, typing what you have, if any of that were true? Lie, or identity crisis.

  • johnatan

    Some facts what the man was going through.

    public persecution by the media, stomach pain’s. heroin + several other addictions, the constant touring and being separated from love ones, the stress that comes from being a father,
    the punk rock dilemma and being held as the voice of a generation.

    that is something you just can’t handle normaly. and when you look back at it.. this happened in kurt’s life from the moment of impact 1992 to the demise in 1994.. so it’s fucking 2 years of overdosing and being dopesick..

    yet you are supposed to keep everyone happy. and as a passive-aggressive person kurt was just too kind and couldn’t say no, becouse so many people depended on him.

    so sad that he’s gone..

    but i like to think that kurt’s ghost haunts the very street’s of seattle screaming his head off to the lyrics of scentless apprentice to a bunch of unexpecting hipsters.. that leaves me smiling though :)

  • Abe Froman

    @ Gwynnkatie At what point did I trivialize drug addiction?

    Take your own advice and re-read my post. I barely mentioned it, is that what you’re upset about? Sounds exactly like people being upset with Grohl for what he didn’t say, as opposed to what he did. Get your head out of your ass.

    While you’re at it, save your prayers for people who need them you pretentious fuck.

  • Iso

    Amen Abe Froman! The Sausage King of Chicago!
    Scream the truth through the pole up that ass…

  • ALICE

    some sound conversation here. very interesting.

    as for you NOTso… your thoughts on demons or perhaps aliens? you are good for a laugh tho at most. thanks.

    hi gwynn… stay cool. rosy cheeks still tho. too emotional. a lovin heart. winks.

    perhaps we shall all find out the truth soon enough?

    justice.

  • http://nemsworld.com Christine

    If you’ve never seen the 2007 BBC documentary series called “Seven Ages of Rock”, Episode 6, you should.

    Stipe is interviewed at length, and Henry Rollins briefly. It’s the same ep where Dave says “if I could change anything it would be that Kurt was still alive,… that’s it…”.

    If you want the quick versions watch part 6 of 7 on youtube for Henry Rollins summary at :45 into the 8:37 clip and Dave at 6:55 into the 8:07 length clip part 7 of 7.

    http : // www . youtube . com / watch?v=EuF5WHNiHyc

    http : // www . youtube . com / watch?v=E7eFqQQb64Q

    FYI

  • http://nemsworld.com Christine

    PS: Ep 6 is called “Left Of The Dial”.

    All seven ep are worth watching but all of ep 6 ought to get you all to maybe fight less if you hear from the people who were around the situation at the time them and reflect on it relative to Dave’s view of life (in general)? Just a thought. Good Luck.

    Actually come to think about it a GREAT one to watch is a documentary that has no music but is all interviews (you hear Kurt answer questions that you all seem to have his answers to things people fight about online about the band, the ownership, family, etc) called “About A Son” from 2006 where the audio is of Michael Azerrad’s interviews with him.

    Very informative, and also view changing in some ways, or at least, give one a less generalized perception.

    FYI

  • http://nemsworld.com Christine

    Well said johnatan.

  • unglue

    nice to see all opinion from you. thanks.

  • oh well…whatever…nevermind

    I agree with Dave. Having the chance to experience life is special. Does that mean that everyone’s life is easy and perfect? No, but that doesn’t mean that the people who suffer in life have to give up.

  • Big M

    Abe you are a moron. And I’m no Cobain fan particularly.

  • GwynnKatie

    ALICE, I try, I really do dear. You know I do. You’d think I had made a negative comment about Mohammed in a room full of Jihadis. Dave ain’t Jesus Christ boys — he’s a human being… so am I. Glad he helped out with Hurricane Sandy. Needs to do more, what I feel/think.

    johnatan, Christine, Nice. Sensitive comments. I appreciate you.
    I did watch About A Son. It was good, sad — but good.

    Wanna pick your brian Alice. Truth seeker. I never lie. I know you know something now. Never going to meet you. Frustruating. Friend. <3 Thanks.

    Heya Abe —

    "Here’s another one for you Cobain worshippers, he was a selfish prick who decided to take the easy way out instead of getting help & trying to be there for his daughter. Did he ever seek professional help? Long term? As far as I know it was a few quick stints in rehab before bailing on it.

    The guy wrote some great music, but beyond that he was a selfish child who never grew up. He doesn’t deserve your adulation."

    *That* asshole — is when and where you trivialized his addiction.

    Heya Iso —

    “don’t be so fuckin dramatic about starving children and dopesick mom’s…”

    You said *dopesick moms* You didn't read or comprehend what I said.
    Period.

    Backpeddaling ain't gonna save your pissy little asses.
    I'm done arguing with both of you, but feel free to troll me incessantly, ok? I'll take it as a compliment.

    A really moronic compliment — but a compliment just the same.
    :::smiles sweetly:::

    Peace

  • GenXLady

    Interesting read, if a little filled with vitriol at times. We humans have a tough time putting ourselves in each others shoes I guess. There are so many ways to see things. Lots of good viewpoints here and stuff to think about just the same though. Thanks.

  • ALICE

    good one genx. hehe. an interesting read for sure.
    time would be better spent preparing tho i say.
    i am guilty like most.
    complacence is not wise at this time i think?

    thanks for the thoughts. i was rude at the time.

  • GenXLady

    @ALICE-I think you are referring to prior interactions on here? If so, I was being genuine with the thoughts I think you are referring to. Thanks. Whether or not I interpreted this correctly, peace.

  • Natalie

    Instead of saying something depressing, he’s being optimistic and honoring his friend by forming Foo Fighters instead of quitting and being depressed. What Dave did (formed Foo to continue what Kurt believed in) was the most honorable and respectful thing he could do, and doing so I’m sure took minimized a lot of depression and sadness. Kudos to Dave. I’ve always admired him.