Chris Cornell & Anthony Bourdain Took Touching Photo Weeks Before Death

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CNN Parts Unknown host Anthony Bourdain tragically died by suicide on Friday in Paris. Chris Cornell’s widow Vicky wrote on Instagram, “Heartbroken that another bright light is out. My heart goes out to @anthonybourdain ‘s daughter, @asiaargento and his family.

‘As you move through this life and this world you change things slightly, you leave marks behind, however small. And in return, life — and travel — leaves marks on you most of the time those marks — on your body or on your heart — are beautiful. Often, though, they hurt.’ #anthonybourdain.”

Chris Cornell and Anthony Bourdain appeared together on The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon on April 19, 2017, just a few weeks before Cornell died by suicide. Cornell was performing “The Promise” with his Soundgarden bandmate Matt Cameron. A photo has now surfaced of Cornell, Bourdain, and Cameron backstage at the Tonight Show taping.

  • Olga Stewart

    Chris and Anthony should still be here with us.

    This is just getting more and more upsetting because the struggles and pain of these people are being ignored.

    • makingconnections

      I just heard that Anthony Bourdain’s mother said she’d never ever dream that her son would be the person to leave in this way. I’m afraid that especially for men, it’s all to easy to hide personal struggles. Boys are trained from a very young age to tough it out. We will have real equality between men and women when there’s no shame in asking for help, no matter how successful you are or whether you’re male or female.

      Suicide in the U.S. has increased by 25% in the past 20 years I read today.

      • Kay B

        I am so pissed at the fuckers on Fox News and all the shit they are saying about Anthony’s suicide. I’m talking about the comments. They are so misguided and I am ashamed to have these people living in this country. I try to comment on their comments but they are too stupid to understand making fun of a suicide is fucking ridiculous. This country is ran by a shameful asshole and asshole sheep that follow him.

        • makingconnections

          There are many people that support him–that’s so hard to grasp.

          We had an election in Ontario and people there gave a “Trump lite” guy a majority government. I think when life disappoints some people they gravitate to the far-right simple minded types and we have to suffer their stupidity till sanity prevails again. I know they’ll go away but I hate waiting for the day when they are booted out.

        • makingconnections

          I just heard some good news on CBC just now! There is a new method of diagnosing the right drug for treating anxiety and depression….a DNA swab taken from the cheek and they can tell which drugs would have a bad effect and which would be most likely to help. At this point it would cost $l500.00 in this country or being part of a clinical trial they suggested. I don’t know if I have this described properly – I was cleaning the kitchen as I was listening but it sounds hopeful. It was attached to a story about Anthony Bourdain being treated for depression and how difficult it is for some people to wait for medication to kick in.

          • Kay B

            That is very interesting. I wonder how the swab would establish this. When I was going through various drugs in the beginning trying to get the right combo it was horrendous. I was on lamictal and wellbutrin and it was awful. I’m not convinced that Prozac is working, but I do have less “down” days. But that might be because of my own will. I take Oxzepam and Seroquel for my racing thoughts and insomnia and it works well for me. I want to eat everything in the kitchen but at least I’m sleeping. It isn’t ideal to rely on meds and it’s not appropriate in all cases, but I was literally staying up for days at a time manic and looking very sickly at 87 lbs. If it works it works. But it certainly was hard getting there.

          • makingconnections

            Glad to hear you found a combination that helps a complicated situation. I see no problem in relying on drugs for real problems. I always compare it to diabetes patients….there’s no question in our society that a serious case needs medication. That’s why, if the story is true that Anthony was being treated for depression with medication and waiting for it to be effective, it’s so sad that his family and friends are asking why and taking it so personally. He was treating for mental illness and the treatment didn’t work in time. I would think a person in that situation wants to live but just can’t cope. I always feel such concern for the children thinking that their parent didn’t care enough to stay with them, when in fact they need to be told truthfully from the very beginning that their parent was very sick and the treatment didn’t work. I really feel concerned for the children who have had an experience of serious trauma in their loss and need to be helped seriously to understand as much as possible and every effort made to have them not fall into PTSD.
            Your last line: “But it certainly was hard getting there.” That to me shows that your own will, the core of you, takes responsibility for trying to get through and I admire that so much. That’s the beautiful thing about human beings, dealing with the dark and the light that all our lives are made up of and not allowing ourselves to be dragged down. That’s not meant to disrespect those that don’t make it, but I believe most do when you compare how many troubled people there are. I believe that we all have various conditions, even if we’re not aware of it, that in today’s world there are very few truly mentally healthy people, but that we reach for life….and Kay, you’re going to a concert soon. I have the feeling that music is a big medicine for you and motherhood.

          • Trovoid

            I just wanted to add (unless you or someone else already did) that sometimes there is an increased suicide risk on the first several weeks of starting antidepressants. Energy/motivation can increase before the depressive thoughts decrease leading some to finally have the drive and confidence to go through with suicide. I’m not sure what happened with Anthony but that seems very possible.

          • makingconnections

            Yes, the DNA swabs is a hopeful thing isn’t it?! I believe that it will be that sort of thing that guides us in the future. We’ll probably look back and realize that we were really flailing around and actually risking people’s lives because we didn’t have the knowledge to treat people properly.

            It wouldn’t surprise me if that waiting time is what happened to Anthony either. We lost a brilliant young woman a few years ago who had a 6 week old baby and was being treated but not effectively. She was our shining star. Perhaps I told you about her funeral when a First Nations elder got up and said: “Don’t gossip about her, what happened in her final few minutes on this earth is between her and her Creator.” The room was silent.

          • Trovoid

            Definitely. There’s so much more to learn about mental health and treatments.

            That’s very sad. Nobody can even begin to imagine what it’s like during those final moments if they haven’t experienced suicidal thoughts themselves. I really hope people weren’t actually gossiping about her at her funeral.. That would be horrible.

          • makingconnections

            No, I took his words out of context. They were perfect for any small community that I’ve been part of and he was speaking of the gossip that takes place on reserves. I loved living on a little island for many years, but in the winter especially, people seemed to turn inward and pick on each other. Even now if I see someone from there and say: “How are things on the island?”, they’ll most likely tell me about who has cancer, who’s kid overdosed, all that sort of thing.

            At her funeral it was amazing. There were so many babies being passed around to old people and young people. When you walked in the door there was a table with all her day-to-day things–her hair-dryer, her favorite chips, her favorite fizzy drink, her stuff animal, her soccer shoes. It broke your heart but at the same helped you to grieve. Her husband was brought in, supported by his friends, shouting Why…..Why? I thought, this is what a funeral is like when the husband isn’t medicated. The hall was new, with amazing long house construction and good, good food. They people on reserves in that area are well off because of historically being amazing fishermen. They’ve always been considered high ranking, which is very much part of the culture of First Nations on the Northwest Coast.

          • Trovoid

            That’s beautiful but horrible about the husband. Someone should have given that poor man a Xanax.

          • makingconnections

            Yes, I’ve never seen such suffering and drama and yet it was probably routine in the pre-tranquilizer days. What’s interesting is that usually people are in shock at that stage and the reality and grief hits somewhat later.. . not so in this situation.

    • makingconnections

      I didn’t mean to be disagreeing with you Olga. I just wish that we could raise our children well so that depression doesn’t have to be something that so many deal with as adults. Maybe I’m just looking for an easy answer, but the struggling that people are going through is upsetting and talking about it will help but some real action needs to happen. There are no easy answers.

      • Olga Stewart

        I understood what you said. And I agree with it.

        Boys and men need to know that it’s all right to be both open and vulnerable.

        In fact, everybody should know that it’s all right to do so.

        Also, something needs to be done about bringing awareness to mental health issues.

        Not just talk but also real, concrete action.

        • makingconnections

          I think when you’re a celebrity in our culture you’re under tremendous pressure to keep up your image–the pressure must be incredible.

          I’m concerned about the families in crisis who are left to try to cope when their situations are almost impossible. The children suffer and pay a huge price for their whole lives when they don’t feel like they’re worth anything. Also, children that experience trauma should be supported throughout their growing up. That’s where I’d like to see my tax dollars spent – there and research on brain function and medication other than anti-depressants, or as well as. We should never stop the research no matter what the drug companies advise.

  • Christina Hurst

    What a battle..Drugs..depression suicide..death.

  • flankton

    Is hanging yourself like the new liberals way of doing it? Kurt cobain Ernest Hemingway and hunter thompson I think did it better

    • makingconnections

      Well there’s a new talking point for the far-right lunatics…we need our guns to shoot ourselves.

    • Olga Stewart

      Shut the hell up.