Nirvana Bassist Emotionally Describes ‘Pain’ And ‘Anger’ Of Surviving Loss Of Suicide


Nirvana bassist Krist Novoselic appeared on the ‘I’m Listening’ suicide prevention broadcast over the weekend. Alternative Nation transcribed his comments.

“In 1994 we lost Kurt Cobain to suicide. Many people are suicide loss survivors, these are the families, friends, and even bandmates who have lost someone to suicide. Mourning the loss of a loved one who took their own life can be confusing. There is pain, anger, guilt, a jumble of emotions that one deals with when surviving a loss of suicide. I don’t want anyone to go through this.

Here are the risk factors that could leave a loved one to suicide. Experts tell us depression, substance abuse, and any family history of suicide are some of the factors that can lead one to take their own life. We need to pay attention to all risk factors, and here’s one I want to point to, being exposed to other suicidal behavior, such that of family members, peers, or celebrities.

For lack of a better term, this could be referred to as a copycat situation. It’s hard enough to lose great musicians through suicide, that fans could also think about ending their own lives is just too much. If you are feeling bad and losing hope, please don’t forget that every musician is a music fan themselves. Every one, we are all in this together. You are not alone, and I’m listening. There are people that can help you. There is a lot of great music out there to discover as either a fan, a musician, or both.

There is a lot to live for, the tragedy of a suicide loss survivor is all of the love for the person who took their own life is still there. That love was always there and it shows that suicide is really a waste. Don’t do it, there is hope. This hope reveals itself and is as simple as every time you turn up the music.”

This week is National Suicide Prevention Week. If you are dealing with mental health issues, you can call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255, or enter their live chat.

  • cindy

    Say what you have to say because Brett will shut it down if you disagree with his commentary soon after. How this douche bag has a job is beyond…..

  • makingconnections

    I don’t understand the ongoing publishing of Chris Cornell’s mother-in-law’s rants. They are extremely provocative to many of Chris’s fans, considering the ongoing drama that she’s been expressing since his death. It’s bloody depressing that a site that is a place for fans of Chris Cornell and Chester Bennington to find their way through this time of grief and to talk about lifting each other up are exposed to such slanderous talk. Why give her an opportunity? Why have a forum that is about articles and discussions then publish trash talk and not allow a response? It’s not just.

    • nomad

      I agree. I’d prefer he not include her IG posts here. If people want to read them, then they can go follow her. Further, if he’s going to include her rants here, then leave the comments open.

      • makingconnections

        I’m glad someone agrees with me. People who so readily “cross lines” think they’re just being open and really telling people off, but they do so much damage to others as they speak as they do. (innocent people get caught in the crossfire…)

        • Alternative Nation

          I would leave the comments open if things didn’t turn into personal insults. People criticizing what Toni says is totally justified, but the comments literally always go down a rabbit hole of personal insults and into other discussions. If people were to comment things like ‘She should not be posting things like this’ etc. I would have no problem leaving comments open.

          • makingconnections

            I think her posts are too outrageous to not expect outraged comments in response. Actually, I think she must be embarrassing her family very much at this time and I don’t understand why you don’t just leave her Instagram stuff alone. There’s so much of interest to those who love the musicians you cover. We could live just fine without knowing Chris Cornell’s mother-in-laws latest thoughts. Sometimes I like the conversations as much as the articles here but Toni K. does not add a thing to your site, even though everyone probably reads her tirades.

          • makingconnections

            I hope you can laugh at yourself…Where I come from we call what you’ve just done here “talking out of both sides of your mouth”. Criticizing Toni is totally justified but the critics go down a rabbit hole of personal insults.

  • makingconnections

    Mostly what I think when I read one of her rants is: “Poor Chris.” Is that going down the rabbit hole?