Chris Cornell’s Widow Reveals Why She’s ‘Still Not Ready’ To Bury Husband

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Chris Cornell’s widow Vicky recently posted on Instagram:

“While May 18th will forever mark the worst day of my life, the 26th – a year ago today – marks the second. The day I was forced to lay the love of my life to rest. I wasn’t ready…. I’m still not ready I didn’t and don’t want to bury my husband.
Being back at Hollywood Forever last Friday night was stepping into a place that serves as a reminder of what I’ve lost, a missing piece that hurts so much. But seeing you all and feeling so much love renewed my feelings of hope and gave me the strength to keep going, continue to honor him and not lose sight of all I have to be grateful for.

In this last year, the outpouring of love and support from all over the world reinforced my determination to work on everything my husband wanted to see fulfilled, and everything he stood for. From his music, to his heart and soul as a father and as a husband.

I will speak his name every day. I will continue to keep the promise for him and Chris will live forever in the present.
So many of you have shared how much his music changed you and even saved your lives. You have paid that love forward a hundredfold. Your love and support has helped our family through this past year more than my few words can convey. Together we will never forget Chris, and I will never forget your love and support. Thank you. Loud Love, VC #keepthepromise #noonesingslikeyouanymore”

While May 18th will forever mark the worst day of my life, the 26th – a year ago today – marks the second. The day I was forced to lay the love of my life to rest. I wasn’t ready…. I'm still not ready I didn’t and don’t want to bury my husband. Being back at Hollywood Forever last Friday night was stepping into a place that serves as a reminder of what I’ve lost, a missing piece that hurts so much. But seeing you all and feeling so much love renewed my feelings of hope and gave me the strength to keep going, continue to honor him and not lose sight of all I have to be grateful for. In this last year, the outpouring of love and support from all over the world reinforced my determination to work on everything my husband wanted to see fulfilled, and everything he stood for. From his music, to his heart and soul as a father and as a husband. I will speak his name every day. I will continue to keep the promise for him and Chris will live forever in the present. So many of you have shared how much his music changed you and even saved your lives. You have paid that love forward a hundredfold. Your love and support has helped our family through this past year more than my few words can convey. Together we will never forget Chris, and I will never forget your love and support. Thank you. Loud Love, VC #keepthepromise #noonesingslikeyouanymore

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  • makingconnections

    There is something is this latest communication from Vicky Cornell that feels as though she’s ready to honour her husband, say thank you for the support she’s received and perhaps move on. I hope this is the case and that she won’t torture herself and everyone else with the issues surrounding Chris Cornell’s passing.

    We all lose loved ones sooner or later; maybe they aren’t as beloved by fans as Vicky’s husband but in our world’s they are very precious. Many people manage to move forward and live with the grief forever but beside the pain is immense gratitude for all that was good about our loved one. Join us Vicky–it’s a different way of life, but just as valid and worthwhile as before the loss.

    • Kay B

      I think sometimes we all don’t know how to deal with a death especially a close one. When my dad died 2 yrs ago my mom and I fought everyday on his end of life care. I sent her an email literally 6 hrs before he died saying Jesus mom can we just get along for dad’s remaining time and enjoy what we have with him? Well the next email I got was ” dad died….” It was too late and I felt really bad. And I think she did too. I don’t know why Vicky feels like she has to bury him. She doesn’t. Maybe in time she will do something for depression as well. Like she is doing for addiction. But then again she doesn’t have to do that either.

      • makingconnections

        I was just up in the interior of our province to the town where my brother died. It was the first time since his passing and I had breakfast with my mother and her friends at the event place where we had his memorial service. All the memories flooded back and the wasted emotion of wishing it could have gone differently. My mother and I had a terrible clash of values and beliefs when he was dying like you and your Mom. She actually ended up getting quite dysfunctional and did’t visit him at all at the end…decorated her apt. for Christmas. I knew immediately upon his death that my life would never be the same, we were so close but that there was no fixing anything. He was gone….I hope to somewhere else and that we’ll meet again. I assured him of that when he was dying and it helped him let go.
        I’ve heard that sometimes people don’t want to stop talking about their loved one and grieving deeply because it can feel like they’ll forget about them and they’ll truly be gone from their life.

        • HippieChic61

          I had a friend take his own life last year because his parents sold the family farm that he was living on….the farm where he grew up…and where his brother had drown 30 years ago when we were kids….I believe he felt, like you said, that moving from their childhood home would some how mean he was leaving him behind for good.

          • makingconnections

            That very sad and yet I can imagine how it happened–and it all goes on below the surface so often we don’t know why we feel as we do.

        • Olga Stewart

          I have no contact with both my Mom and my brother.

          I wanted to try and work things out with them. But they didn’t want any part of that.

          Anyhow, when my dad was in the hospital, I kept calling often to see how he was doing. But when my Mom found out about it, she told off the nurses for talking to me. And in fact, the nurse who I spoke to seemed a bit shocked by it (though, I wasn’t).

          I also had sent a letter, some photos, and a phone card for my dad.

          I was able to talk with my dad once. And when I did, I told him that I loved him.

          But after my dad passed away, my Mom e-mailed me to ask me what I wanted her to do with the things that I had sent to my dad.

          There was no ‘I’m very sorry about your dad dying’. Or anything else of that nature. Just a question about items that I had sent to him.

          I lit into her by e-mail (which she didn’t reply to).

          And that was the last time she and I ever spoke (this was in September 2012).

          I know my dad is at peace. And I know that he is here with me. He also loves me. So I always keep him close both in my heart and my memories.

          I’m no longer angry at both my Mom and brother I just feel sorry for the both of them.

          But for my own mental health, it’s best that there is no contact with them.

          • makingconnections

            Olga that is terrible that you were treated that way. There were similar things happening with my brother’s ex and other relatives barring certain people from visiting. The nurses in Intensive Care told me that they had 2 social workers at the hospital and most of their time was taken up with that sort of thing…relatives taking possession of a dying person. It’s horrific that such dark feelings can prevail when it is a sacred time really.

          • Olga Stewart

            Thank you for your kind words.

            And they are most appreciated.

            But I have made my peace with it. So it’s just not something that I ever really dwell upon.

          • Olga Stewart

            I have some sad news.

            And that is that Corndog’s dad passed away.

          • makingconnections

            Thanks for letting me know Olga.

          • Olga Stewart

            You are welcome.

          • HippieChic61

            Olga, I’m sad to read that. I haven’t had contact with my mother in 3 years for much the same reasons. I find that “no contact” is whats best for us both, even though its a sad state of affairs when a mother doesnt have a bond with her child. I have found so much understanding and comfort in a blogger I found on youtube…i cant post a link or theyll delete my post, but if you go to youtube and search “Narcissism Survivor”..thats his screename. He’s a middle aged grey haired guy. Those videos explained a lot! Even though we may not agree on the Cornell saga….I wish you well Olga! Prayers and positive energy for peace within!

          • Tamara Xian

            I feel you. I am in the same situation. It’s hard but one has to survive and stay sane so we do what we have to. Stay strong.

          • Olga Stewart

            Thank you for your kind words.

            And I am very sorry that the same thing has happened to you.

            Also, my thoughts are with you.

      • makingconnections

        Kay B, did you post your beautiful poem anywhere?

    • Olga Stewart

      I really wish that were true.

      But knowing Vicky, I’m going to guess it won’t be.

      Especially when on her husband’s IG she posted a tribute to Chris from a friend. And the friend forgot to mention Lily in the post.

      People let Vicky know about this. Then she tagged LIly in the post and then deleted these people’s comments.

      • makingconnections

        Disappointing.

    • Christina Hurst

      So does she have his ashes or are they not buried it? I read she cremated him.

      • makingconnections

        I have no idea about Chris Cornell’s ashes.

        Yes, she had him cremated and very quickly.

      • HippieChic61

        His ashes are with his wife and children.

  • Cristiann

    Damn, Chris had such a beautiful smile. It feels very bittersweet to see pictures like that of him now.

    At this point I can only hope that his kids, family members and friends have all the support that they need. I also hope that Chris (wherever he is) knows just how loved and deeply missed he is.